Stress, we all have it, it’s what you do with it that counts. A wise person I know taught me “every challenge is an opportunity for growth”. I like this way of looking at it very much. I am in the business of helping people during a growing moment in life. That’s all a challenge is really, an opportunity to grow and expand ourselves a bit on the journey, resulting in more peace of mind and heart along the way.
My recipe for stress is combine equal parts: self awareness, self compassion and wise mind.
It’s easier to see this process in action. Let’s take Sue and her easy to see example. Sue is a busy mom and wife. She has three children who are all now in school and she took the step of returning to work outside the home this year. Sue is a massage therapist and she loves what she does. She has always enjoyed working with her hands and being a part of others healing. Sue shares with me how much she loves this work and the great sense of satisfaction she has watching her clients leave with a smile and a serene look after their appointment. Sue used to be a full time mom, and she loved making home made meals for her and her family, back when she had the time.
Sue’s work is strenuous on her hands, and when she gets home she tells me honestly “the last thing I want to do is massage a meal for my family”. So this year it has been more take out and processed food. She has eaten more comfort foods and has gained a full dress size in the
process. Sue feels overwhelmed from her new schedule at times and less energetic due to the empty carb increase, as well as guilt about the lower nutrition standards in her home this year.
This is Sue’s self awareness, the details of her life, her own knowledge of her needs for thriving, and her honest core feelings.
A dose of self compassion adds the element of feeling joy for her new success and fulfillment at work, and the understanding that she wants to rest her hands at home. Sue lets go of the guilt as she decides it is ok to give her hands rest at home. Maybe next year she will give a couple less massages to people, and a couple more hours to her fun in the kitchen,remember she used to really enjoy cooking. But now she is loving the new adventure of her work, and prefers this much more to cooking.
Enter ingredient three, wise mind. Say yes to your preferences. Sue prefers working with clients than in the kitchen right now, and she doesn’t want to compromise her vitality or that of her family. She knows of two healthy organic restaurants in town and has talked with the chef at both. This food costs more than processed food or cooking from scratch, but Sue knows and feels good about the extra money she is bringing into the home. She allocates her resources wisely and now stops in each week and gets locally made, fresh, organic, nutritious, unprocessed food for her and her family. She found out from the chefs, she is not the only working mama making this choice! She said goodbye to feeling guilty and she feels good about supporting two other small businesses in town especially now that she has a local business of her own. She is enjoying her resting time at home, smiling more, and laughing with her kids again!
Try this recipe at home for yourself!