Neuroscience research has shown emphatically that listening to music stimulates multiple areas of the brain. Music can release endogenous opioids in the brain and evoke emotionally and psychologically felt experiences that entrain the brain circuitry resulting in deep core healing.
Creating, and listening frequently, to your playlist provides a roadmap for navigating your grief that is both cathartic and up lifting. Grief is an intense feeling experience. If you try to avoid your feelings, they will show up instead displaced onto others in ways that don’t serve them, or through possible self-destructive behaviors that don’t serve you. When you honor and allow yourself to feel your experience, it can pass through you like a wave, instead of being stuck inside like a continual storm that doesn’t move.
The process of creating your playlist will be a powerful tool for honoring your loved one that you lost, honoring your grief experience, and allowing yourself to continue to move forward into your future feeling more free and hopeful.
An ideal playlist is 6 or 7 songs. Start with a couple songs that match the tempo and words of your grief or current emotional state. You can possibly begin with a favorite song of your loved one. Then add music that gives voice to your feelings of loss and your experience. Gradually progress the tempo and lyrics towards your desired state of emotions and life circumstances. Conclude with songs that engender hope for the future.
Allow yourself to be guided by your intuitive higher self and the higher self of your loved one.
This is likely to be a creation that comes through you but not only from you.
Adapted from Armstrong, Courtney. (2015) The Therapeutic “Aha!”: 10 Strategies For Getting Your Clients Unstuck. New York: W. W. Norton.